Competent Pastors

by Mark Tidsworth, Founder and Team Leader

How competent do we perceive ourselves to be?

What a strange question to ask, given the Christian emphasis on humility. Isn’t it wrong to understand ourselves as effective, competent, and successful pastoral leaders? How we answer these questions directly influences the quality of pastoral leadership we provide in our congregations.

We were to the last session of Leadership Coaching, reviewing the client’s progress. She is a Lead Pastor in a sizeable church, about seven years into this call. She has served diligently and faithfully, with great effectiveness. This pastor is competent – no question about it. Yet, her self-perception as a competent Lead Pastor lags behind the reality. This contributes to exaggerated work hours and hyper-vigilance, with great difficulty relaxing and trusting that things are going as well as they are. I invited her to expand her self-perception, integrating her competence more fully.

Several years ago I noticed this tendency in leadership coaching clients; a tendency to discount their competence and effectiveness. Was this simply being humble? Imposter syndrome? No, it’s a psychological dynamic which can undermine effective ministry if left unaddressed.

It turns out that our self-perceptions lag a couple paces behind current reality. In fact, this is even more so when it comes to competence than when we fail or make mistakes. We human beings are quick to integrate negative experiences into our self-perceptions, yet slower to enlarge our self-perceptions to include positive competence. That’s what I saw in this Leadership Coaching client. She is far more competent and effective than she perceives herself to be.

Now, why would this be important for clergy and church staff?

Enlarging our self-perception to match our actual competence equips and empowers us, while denying this derails future effectiveness. The dynamic at work here is that we live in ways which confirm who we perceive ourselves to be. Our brains are always seeking alignment. Though we are not consciously aware of it, we are consistently ordering our behavior to confirm what we believe about ourselves. Pastors who believe God has given them what they need in order to serve well, unconsciously live into that belief. Pastors who do the work to grow their competence, giving their blessing to their own progress, tend to live into that blessing. Pastors who perceive themselves as “less than” also live into their belief.

This dynamic directly influences ministry in two ways. First, pastors who accept their competence, lead more effectively. These pastors are positioned to go through the doors which God opens. These pastors practice the spiritual discipline of hope, believing they and their churches can do what they are called to do. These pastors proactively engage opportunities with minimal hesitancy. These pastors put fear of failure in its place, believing themselves equipped and meant for effectiveness. Because these pastors have integrated effectiveness into their self-perceptions, they lead in ways congruent with this view. As a result, their churches enjoy competence or effectiveness oriented pastoral leadership.

Second, pastors whose competence-quotient lags behind, subtly resist success and effectiveness. Now, few of us consciously resist success. Yet unconsciously our brains continue to order our lives for alignment with our self-perception. These pastors hesitate when growth opportunities requiring bold leadership present themselves. These pastors grow uncomfortable, feeling discombobulated, when success and effectiveness happen. These pastors actually undermine themselves, sabotaging their good work when their competence levels exceed what they expect of themselves. These pastors find themselves asking, “Why does something always interrupt progress when I’m on the verge of leading at a higher level?” or “We can’t do that because I’m not that kind of pastor (meaning that competent or effective).” Because these pastors perceive themselves as less competent than they are, they limit their leadership effectiveness. As a result, their churches experience a less competent and effective pastoral leader.

So what’s the shape of your self-perception? Can competence be found in the internal picture you hold of yourself? If so, give thanks to God for the grace to accept the gifts God is giving you. If not, ask God for the grace to more fully accept the gifts God is giving you. May we do all we can to serve as effective pastoral leaders, even accepting ourselves as competent and effective, for God’s glory.